7 Steps To Ideal Life Design For Beginners
It doesn’t matter if you are 21 and just starting out, or over 55 and want something different you can create the life you want. However, in order to create your Ideal Life, you need to be really clear on what they will look like.
1. Can I really design my own life?
It’s always easier, whatever age you are, to follow conventional wisdom, or other people around you. However, if you look at some of the most successful people on the planet, they were all “rule breakers” not followers.
Some examples of amazingly successful rule breakers:
- The iconic fashion designer Ralph Lauren dropped out of college early before establishing his iconic fashion brand
- Michael Dell dropped out of college to sell computers and made $180,000 in his first month of business
- Bill Gates dropped out of Harvard to build his first business.
So, if you don’t feel that going back to school or college, and getting another qualification so that you can sign on to the bottom of a career ladder, like millions of others do, is going to suit you – it probably won’t.
The explosion of successful companies run by mothers, who decided they wanted to stay at home with their children AND succeed financially is testament to how previously unconventional work/lifestyle routes are increasingly becoming the norm.
However, you don’t have to be a mother with young children to want to work from home. You could join the ranks of digital nomads who love travelling and want to see the world whilst working, instead of postponing that travel to retirement.
Whatever your preferences are, they are your preferences and they are the best place to start.
You may decide after clarifying what you want that you may need to take a course to gain the skills you need to get to the place you want to – and you will enjoy that a whole heap more if you are clear on why you are doing it.
The questions you need to answer first are:
- Where do you want to live/be?
- Do you want to work in a traditional office (after Covid) or do you want more control over where you work, and possibly travel at the same time?
- What do you want your day to look like? Do you want to be in meetings all day or do you work better on your own?
And the question most people stumble on is:
4. What do you enjoy doing the most?
As we live in a culture where most people accept that work is a “necessary evil” that must be done in order to have the lifestyle they want, stepping back from that belief can be a challenge.
What if you were paid to do what you love most doing?
If money was no object what would you do with your time?
2. Is happiness overrated?
Happiness is hard to define, however something we are taught to strive for. What can be easier to determine is satisfaction – we all know the things we do that bring us satisfaction. For example, it could be cooking and enjoying a delicious meal. Or completing a home project that you have been working on or avoiding doing for some time.
I find it satisfying to help people – what do you find most satisfying?
3. What will my friends and family think?
If you friend and families are not supportive of your ambition to create your ideal life, then it is time to find people who will support you.
Friends and families hold a picture of you, and will initially resent any changes you make, especially if it affects them directly.
So, for example if you decide to prioritize your time on research or honing a skill, you may have less time and patience to listen to them or help them with their daily life. Sacrifices will have to be made.
4. How Much Are You Willing to Sacrifice For Your Ideal Life?
Time is finite, and although this may seem blindingly obvious, you cannot do something different in your life without making room for it.
So, if you decide you want to launch a new business, or sell your services or products online this will take a certain amount of time.
What are you willing to sacrifice to be successful? Can you skip your favourite tv shows for a few months or even longer? Can you live frugally whilst you set yourself up in your ideal career? Can you accept a lower income working part-time if you have to go back to college or learn a new skill online?
The amount you are prepared to sacrifice will be in direct proportion to the desire you have for your new life.
This does not mean of course that you necessarily have to be miserable. Your mindset will be key in how you feel whilst you are making the transition.
5. Why is Mindset Important in Creating an Ideal Life?
This is the biggest secret to creating the life that you want.
For a few minutes I would like you to consider the following:
“Where you are today is the direct result of your own thoughts some years ago” Abraham Hicks
Can you accept that? (If you can’t I suggest you check this out)
You may find it difficult to swallow that our thoughts create our reality, so you may want to start with the idea that our thoughts impact our feelings.
For example, you know that if you are in a good mood, it is much easier to deal with any minor upset – like the printer running out of ink when you are in a rush, or your least favourite person asking you for a favour. When you are in a positive headspace or “mindset”, nothing can get you down.
The converse is also true.
So, if this is all new to you my blog on Vision Boards may be a good place to start (see my blog on Vision Boards).
6. Do I need a mentor?
If you wanted to run a marathon and had never jogged before in your life, you could google how to do it, but you would be much more likely to succeed if you joined a group or got a coach.
Creating a new life, whether it’s a lifestyle change or launching a new online business requires different skills, discipline and a different way of thinking.
Finding a mentor or coach is critical. Or you could establish a group of people who have similar aims and speak to them regularly.
Otherwise, it’s too easy to let the weeks, months, or even years slip by with no progress being made.
7. Where do I start?
After you have answered the questions at the top of the article, you can begin to set goals. You may not be able to establish a time line immediately as you simply do not know how long certain things will take.
However, you can set aside time, or commit a certain time every day or week to succeeding in this plan.
So, your first step may be to spend one day clarifying your ideal work/lifestyle and what that looks like. Including as many details as possible write down your ideal day/week and how you want to work, and with whom.
Your next day could be dedicated to research. These days could be over the course of week or longer. A simple commitment of 3-4 hours a day is manageable for most people whatever their current lifestyle.
You may have to sacrifice a few hours’ sleep but any action you take will get you closer to your Ideal Life. Of course, you will inadvertently waste time on the wrong things, or go down a couple of dead ends but ultimately you will arrive at your Ideal Destination.
Finding the right coach or mentor will save you time.
Ultimately only you can decide how long it will take you to create your Ideal Life, and your ideas of what that looks like may change along the way.
You can also decide right now that you will enjoy the journey, and that means enjoy every day.
Parm Kaur offers life-coaching for career change and new online business owners – for more details see here